I saw a comment on a discussion forum recently about parents posting “too many” pictures of their children on Facebook, and it got me thinking. Is there such a thing as “too many” photographs of a child?
Hello, my name is Laura and I’m a Snap Happy Mummy. I post A LOT of pictures of my darling offspring on Facebook. Several a day sometimes. Do I particularly care what anyone thinks about this? Not really… if I’m honest.
When I was going through infertility, it wasn’t people sharing about their children that annoyed me. It was endless scan pictures, endless moaning about pregnancy and endless moaning about the child once they were here. There’s nothing worse than it being a bad day, when a period shows up at the end of what you thought was a promising cycle and you’re mindlessly scrolling through Facebook and have to wade through scan pictures and people talking about how horrible their pregnancy is. Because of that, I haven’t publicly posted my scan pictures to Facebook (they were always shared within comments and albums) and I generally don’t talk about the difficulties of pregnancy or having a child on there. I’m mindful of my friends who are still stuck in the infertility trenches or have moved on without having children.
However, when it comes to sharing pictures of Eden, that’s a different matter. Forgive me for being maybe a little big headed here, but why would I not share pictures of her? She’s gorgeous. Of course I think that – she is my daughter. But genuinely, her little smile puts a smile on my face and I love sharing that and hopefully making others smile. I love sharing the little moments that get us through the day. The sleepy smiles, the face covered in food, the sitting up and the lovely outfits. I love sharing her. And family and friends love seeing her. On Twitter and Instagram I use the tag #babyspam so that if people wish to mute, it is easy enough to do so.
I think we all agree that certain things are a total over share. I wouldn’t dream of sharing any picture that involved her genitals or similar, neither would I share any pictures of ominous rashes or nappies. I don’t think that’s necessary – but that’s me. I know some people are perfectly ok with sharing fully naked and exposed pictures of their kids, but that’s not OK for me, so I don’t do it.
Is this rude to those still going through infertility? Am I a hypocrite? I asked a few friends about this and quite a few of them take the same stance as me. When I was going through infertility, my Facebook mute list was LONG. I mean, at one point it had coming up for thirty people on it. But is that their problem? Should they not share their happiness because I hadn’t found mine? Are they sharing photographs “at” me? No. That’s my thoughts. The mute button was and still is my friend. Personally, I think that’s the best way to be. I wouldn’t be offended one tiny bit if I found out I was on someone’s mute list for sharing pictures of my daughter. It’s all about self care. If you need to step away, please PLEASE do. Don’t feel you have to stay following me just because we are friends. Everyone has bad patches and you need to look after you during yours.
I think also that sometimes think that those of us who share a lot of pictures do it because we think our child is better than theirs. That’s not the case. It’s not a comparative thing. I think she’s fabulous, I really do. But that’s not in comparison to any other child, that’s just my opinion on my daughter. I’m not sharing “at” you. I’m sharing pictures of my daughter because I think she’s great.
Eden is one of my favourite things in my life. We waited a long time for her. Our choice is to share her often with friends on social media. Others make a different choice and that’s up to them and is just as valid. But please, let me be a snap happy mummy if I want to. Because chances are, we will only get to do this once.
I’ve posted some of my favourites from this week below.