When I became a parent, I expected stress. I expected absolutely all consuming love. I expected a challenge like no other. What I didn’t expect, though, was fear. Well, I expected a little bit. I didn’t expect it to be crippling, and I didn’t expect it to turn me into the kind of person who cries in the pub over something that was absolutely nothing, but could have been something. Continue reading
I grew up calling it a tuppence. I’ve heard Lady Garden, bits, privates, snatch, front bum, money box (?!) and many other cutesy names for that part that all of us that are biologically female have: a vulva.
We’d said from day one that we would teach Eden the anatomical names for her genitals, but there’s something about the word “vulva” that just sounds… unpleasant. It probably comes as part of that big old thing called The Patriarchy, but even knowing that we should encourage anatomical names, we still shied away. We had taught Eden, but more often than not it was just “bits” or sometimes “foof”.
That was until last week. Continue reading
A few weeks ago, I signed up at work to “reverse mentor” a member of the executive team. The advert from the Chief Executive read
“Could you be my mentor? We are looking for enthusiastic, passionate and committed mentors (working in any role at any level) who would like the opportunity to build a relationship with a senior leader, to share their diversity story and help create a more inclusive workforce.”
and I thought ‘I could do that.’ I signed up and was successful. A week or so ago, I went along to my training session with eighteen or so other trainee mentors. Continue reading
“But you look fine! You should just be more positive.”
People have this idea of what anxiety looks like. They have a preconceived notion of what somebody who suffers with anxiety should be doing or saying. Even doctors have a list of “things” that they expect somebody with anxiety to be doing. It’s part of the stigma attached to mental health problems, because for a lot of people anxiety doesn’t look how you think it ‘should’. I’m one of those people. Continue reading
Eye health is not something that has always been top of my agenda. I didn’t get my first eye test until I was eight or nine years old and that was when I got my first pair of glasses. Nowadays I’m a contact lens wearer and am meticulous about my eye health. Knowing how bad it can go if lenses aren’t cleaned regularly and properly is enough reason to take care!
But what about Eden? We don’t have any concerns about her vision, but when Vision Express contacted us with some information about keeping sun safe, we swotted up!
We have friends all over the world, some of whom we met through our infertility journey. Despite the warnings as a teen to be careful online and such, some of my favourite people are those that I have met on the big scary internet. A couple of these friends came to stay with us last year, so this year it was out turn to visit them in Sunny Pittsburgh.
It’s that time of year again. Rainbow flags, unicorns, glitter and all things fabulous. There are rainbows all around and companies changing their display picture on Facebook to a rainbow version of their logo. All good, because Pride is just one big party, right?